Final Skills To Mend a Broken Heart in Just Six Steps!
People may say no one ever died of a broken heart, but when you are suffering from one, it sure does not feel that way, at least at first. These ideas may help you navigate the painfully troubled waters of a relationship which has finished and help you mend a broken heart.
What is a heart break?
“My heart is broken”, you’ve heard many of us say this. You have now started thinking as to how does it feel to be heart broken? Heartbreak is a particularly bizarre trouble. It is beautifully agonizing, and yet we won’t find an injury on our body. It is like one big emotional agony but it also appears to spark off hundreds of other feelings. We hate the sense of heartbreak, and yet we find ourselves forced to go over and over memories, concepts or fantasies which make the feeling worse. What is going on?
“My heart is broken, My love is gone….” this song by Ryan Adams should sound great to several a broken heart, yet for how long will it last? How long before that empty feeling fades away? Everyone knows there’s no quick solution, but the effort has to be made and over time, you are bound to heal.
How to pass this segment of your life?
The First Phase – REALIZATION
- Of late you have started noticing that things have turned into a bit shaky and frequently fluttering between you and your partner, somehow both of you are not enjoying one another’s company…. And the like.
- You have slowly come to realize that things aren’t working out the way it used to. Somehow, the sparkle which was there in your relationship has now turned lusterless.
- Eventually to need to have the courage to get up and say that the relationship ISN’T WORKING any more.
The Second Phase – SELF DENIAL
- So now is the time for the huge fight and the debate and the accusations and ultimately both of you vow never to see one another again!
- What happens now when you realize you are basically on your own? What if you start to miss them? What if you’re feeling like calling up? You have recently started thinking that maybe it wasn’t an excellent idea to break up after all!
- And then you get that surge of Self Esteem- you keep reminding yourself why you split up in the 1st place. The relationship wasn’t working out so naturally it definitely was a good idea to smash up.
The Third Phase – Sulk….BOO…HOO!
- when you become conscious that life will be different henceforth, you go through the part of self pity-cry into a pillow, listening to songs that remind you think of them, and torture yourself thinking what is going to happen next.
- Your life may appear over, but trust me, time heals a damaged heart and the pain will be gone too.
- This stage is too crappy, but it’s vital. Don’t be reticent discomfort in your heart, you’ll only feel worst later on.
The Fourth Phase – The Anger
- a particularly vital stage to fix a broken heart- this is when you went out the Bitterness.
- You list your buddies provoking features that you once thought was basically lovable and love using the choicest adjectives to describe them.
- at that point you actually grow out of self pity look good and feel good as you dress to impress.
- Over time you can start missing them less and love yourself more.
- Keep yourself busy with new hobbies, work and buddies. There’s no point feeling sorry for yourself when there is a whole world out there waiting for you.
The Fifth Phase – Back in the League
- With time you may understand that there are numerous fine folks other than your ex, waiting to know you and love you.
- Once you’re able to open up again, other people will need to get to know you.
- Get out and start having fun again, even if you’re not prepared to start another intense relationship.
The Sixth Phase – Liberty at Last
- Hey it’s been days without you having thought about your ex! Even if you do, they don’t hurt anymore.
- It does not even feel bad if you them on the streets. A formal Hi! And you are on the way – smiling, assured and raring to go.
- You are finally free and prepared to open and love again! SMILE.
Try believing in soul mates, just because one relationship failed to click, does not imply that there’s not another person waiting close by to grab you up. Mend a damaged heart and life goes on to add new pleasures and a new love!
Summary
If you are heart damaged, learn, feel and live again. If someone doesn’t love you any more or you don’t love them, there’s no point in staying together even if it wounds to break up. Over time the agony will heal and you can be in a position to let others in and share your superb self with them.
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