How to Talk to Girls – Talking Your Way to a Girl’s Heart
June 26, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Want to know how to talk to girls and easily attract them? In this article, you’ll discover some unique conversation tips to warm up and eventually get a woman to like you. Putting her under a romantic spell can be very easy if you follow these great tips on how to talk to girls.
Be Calm and Confident.
The more nervous you are, the more prone you are to stutter and make mistakes when talking. You’ll also have a very tough time coming up with anything interesting to say when you’re anxious. So take it easy and be yourself. Women may notice if you’re just “acting” out to impress her, and this might even turn her off.
Ask The “Right” Questions.
Ask questions that will encourage her to talk further and flaunt her ability or experiences. Don’t ask questions that lead to a dead-end answer such as “yes” or “no”, or questions that delve deeply into her private life (especially when you’ve just met). Moreover, don’t ask silly questions for the sake of having something to say.
Develop Your Sense of Humor.
Among all the strategies on how to talk to girls, having a good sense of humor is probably the most effective.
Here are some great tips to improve your sense of humor:
If you’ve accidentally done something ridiculous or embarrassing, turn that situation into a joke. Learning to accept your own mistakes is a plus factor for women.
Watch comedy movies and shows to know how to deliver humor at the right time. Then tell the joke to your friends and ask them to honestly rank how funny (or not funny) you are. Tell them that your dating or social life depends on their honesty. If they don’t think you’re funny enough, practice until you get it right.
Each girl has her own diverse personality. Tell jokes that fit her qualities. Don’t tell jokes that might offend her in any way. Be careful with sensitive issues such as religion, politics, beliefs, etc. Telling jokes about a certain politician or actor might turn out disastrous if she’s a loyal fan of them.
Stay informed of current news and the latest jokes. You don’t want to tell her a joke that she has heard many times before. Knowing what not to talk about is as important as knowing how to talk to girls.
If she also shows her humorous side, observe her style. Then weave your own style into hers. Be subtle; don’t be too obvious that she notices you copying her approach.
Your body language is equally important in delivering your joke. Use the right facial expression and gestures.
If she’s genuinely laughing, and sometimes holding or shoving you in a teasing manner, that means she’s very much into you.
Did you get something useful out of this article on how to talk to girls? If you did, please share it with other guys who might need them. Remember to stay calm and confident, ask the “right” questions”, and have a sense of humor so you can have an easy and pleasurable time speaking with women.
By: Michael Lee
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Girlfriends & Wives: Why Men View Them Differently
June 26, 2009 | Leave a Comment
A friend of mine announced his plans to get married recently. It came as somewhat of a surprise considering that he once vowed to never get married. We talked about the reasons and the motivations for his about-face, and in doing so, embarked upon an ongoing dialogue in which we weighed the pros and cons of having a girlfriend, versus the pros and cons of having a wife. It was the kind of revealing conversation that women aren’t usually privy to…until now.
Since the foundation of marriage is commitment, it’s only appropriate that I start there. My friend is not commitment aversive. In fact, he has tried – and failed – in previous attempts to have committed relationships. But so have most men. During our conversation he expressed his fear of failing in a marriage. This fear is not the same as failing in a casual, or short-term relationship where there’s no cohabitation or commitment. It’s a deeper, greater fear of failure. The kind that everyone (friends, families, co-workers, distant relatives, and anyone else you may invite to your wedding) will know about.
When men fail in relationships with their girlfriends, they can, in many instances, salvage their friendships with them. When men fail in their marriages, they rarely remain friends with their ex-wives. The continued exposure is a painful reminder of what once was, and will never be. Any friendship that existed is soon replaced by contempt and resentment. Not exactly the ingredients for friendship.
Men like having girlfriends. Women acquire this position in different ways. Sometimes starting out as acquaintances, co-workers, or friends. Sometimes they are officially given the title of girlfriend, other times they “assume” the position based on their interactions and emotional connections with men. No woman could ever assume the position of being a wife. Wives are always chosen by the man. It’s akin to the way that a woman always chooses her lovers. This is the balance of power between the sexes.
Girlfriends (the assumed ones) eventually want an official acknowledgment over a period of time. And just so you women know, if a guy does not officially offer you the position and title of his “girlfriend,” it’s because he does not want to commit to you…but he does want to continue receiving the unofficial benefits of being your friend.
A recent study revealed that two-thirds of college students have been in a “friends with benefits” relationship, citing the lack of commitment required as the main advantage to such an arrangement. More than half of those who had sex with a friend said they had engaged in all forms of sex; 22.7 percent said they had intercourse only, while 8 percent said they did everything but have intercourse.
My friend is not a college student, but he was in this situation. It led to him receiving an ultimatum. His assumed girlfriend threatened to cut off his “benefits.” As a result she got a promotion from assumed girlfriend, to fiance in just one night. With this decision, he was forced to confront his greatest fear; the greatest fear of all men.
Choosing the wrong woman as a wife.
Women have similar fears, but because they tend to be fantasy-driven, they turn their focus to their “big day” after such a monumental decision. It distracts them from the possibility of making a big mistake. The women who are less emotionally distracted seem to manage and rationalize their fears much better; at least better than men do.
Men are more fearful of choosing the wrong woman to commit to, than they are of commitment itself. Yes, men fear being “locked” down – legally or logistically – when the woman that they really want finally comes along. The logic among men is simple: it’s hard to find the love of your life when you are already married.
When men aren’t ready to settle down with a long-term girlfriend, it’s always because they don’t have confidence in their choice of girlfriend as a potential wife. After all, with the assumed girlfriend, men can always say, “I never said you were my girlfriend.” With the official girlfriend, you just break-up, even though it may be painful for her or you. And ending things with your wife? That’s drama – and expensive.
A girlfriend becomes a low-risk proposition in contrast. But choosing not to get married for fear of it “not working out,” is like choosing not to play your favorite sport for fear of getting hurt: the risk is always present. My friend took this attitude, and with it, decided to take his once assumed girlfriend, as his new wife.
During our conversations about girlfriends and wives, I was reminded that for men, there is a stigma associated with marriage that many women are not aware of: men fear that sex changes both in quality and frequency during marriage. Men also fear that their wives won’t pay as much attention to their appearance as they did when they were once a girlfriend.
While these may seem like trivial fears to most women, they are real and very substantial ones for men. So much so, that they immobilize men in their efforts to move forward with a decision to “settle down.” For men, being “stuck” with a woman who loses her “hotness” – sexually or visually – makes them feel like they have indeed, settled, which is an unsettling realization. Men are visual, sexual creatures. Girlfriends don’t have to be reminded of that. Men also fear that wives may change in terms of attitude, demeanor, and values over time; causing them to fall out of love.
These are all fears. Some are legitimate. Some are not. All are to be evaluated on a case-by-case basis. I wish my friend well. He is my best friend after all, and you can’t help but have guarded optimism when someone you love makes one of the most important decisions of their lives. Hopefully this article, inspired by his sudden marriage, will help other men realize that the difference between a girlfriend and a wife, comes down to perception.
By: Gian Fiero
About the Author:
Gian Fiero is an educator, speaker and consultant. He is affiliated with San Francisco State University as an adjunct professor, and the United States Small Business Administration (SBA) as a business advisor where he conducts monthly workshops on topics such as business development, career planning, public relations, and personal growth.
3 Easy Tips on How to Ask a Girl Out
June 26, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Do you find yourself struggling with how to ask a girl out?
She’s attractive, interesting and has a great personality. But every time you’re around her, you can’t seem to figure out how to ask her out on a date? Well if this sounds like you, then you’re not alone. In fact, lots of other guys have problems with getting a date.
What’s funny is it’s actually pretty easy to ask a girl out on a date. If you know the RIGHT sequence of events and how to set things up, it’ll be easy to land a date without making her feel pressured or uncomfortable.
If you follow my 3 step plan, you’ll easily increase your chances of a woman accepting your date request. Let’s get started…
Your first is to make sure you build attraction around this girl. When you first meet her (or if you already know her), the conversation must get to the point where she is interested in what you have to say. So this means you should display ALL the traits that she’ll find attractive.
For instance, you should do the following:
* Display an alpha male personality
* Demonstrate higher status
* Be cocky/funny
* Tell interesting stories
* Ask provocative questions
Now during the process of attraction building you need to show one additional thing: You have an interesting life. When you’re talking to this girl, you should mention how you like to do fun things.
Specifically you should mention an event you’re doing within the next week. The key to this step is to discuss how much fun you’re going to have and why you’re really excited about it. Then steer the conversation towards something else that she finds interesting.
Finally you’ll come to the conclusion of the conversation. This is the moment where you’ll ask her out. Instead of just getting her number, you should act like you had a sudden thought. Mention that she might be interested in the event you were recently discussing. Then tell her “it would be cool if you tag along”. Get her number and let her know that you’ll call with more details.
This technique for asking a girl out is a great way to set up a date without having to resort to specifically giving a date request. You build attraction and excitement about a specific event. Then you ask the girl out without making her feel uncomfortable with an uncomfortable dating environment.
Asking a girl out can be hard for a lot of guys. The trick is to know how to build excitement about date and eliminate her nervousness. If you make her interested about the date, you’ll discover that it’s easy to make her want to go out with you.
By: Scott Patterson
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Easy Ways To Mend a Broken Heart in Just Six Steps!
June 24, 2009 | Leave a Comment
People may say no one ever died from a damaged heart, but when you are suffering from one, it sure does not feel that way, at least initially. These ideas may help you navigate the painfully uneasy waters of a relationship that has ended and help you mend a broken heart.
What is a heart break?
“My heart is broken”, you have heard many of us say this. You have now started thinking as to how does it feel to be heart broken? Heartbreak is a particularly weird trouble. It is beautifully agonizing, and yet we can’t find an injury on our body. It is like one gigantic emotional pain but it also appears to spark off loads of other emotions. We don’t like the sense of heartbreak, and yet we find ourselves forced to go repeatedly memories, concepts or fantasies which make the feeling worse. What is going on?
“My heart is broken, My love is gone….” this song by Ryan Adams should sound good to many a damaged heart, yet for how long will it last? How long before that empty feeling fades away? Everybody knows there is no fast fix, but the effort has to be made and over time, you are bound to heal.
How to pass this segment of your life?
The First Phase – REALIZATION
- Of late you have started noticing that things have become a bit shaky and regularly fluttering between you and your partner, somehow both of you are not enjoying each other’s company… and the like.
- You have slowly come to realize that things are not working out the way it used to. Somehow, the glint which was there in your relationship has now turned lusterless.
- Eventually to have to have the courage to get up and say that the relationship ISN’T WORKING any more.
The Second Phase – SELF DENIAL
- So now is the time for the enormous fight and the argument and the accusations and eventually both of you promise never to see each other again!
- What occurs now when you realize you are actually on your own? What if you start to miss them? What if you feel like calling up? You have just started thinking that maybe it wasn’t an excellent idea to smash up after all!
- And then you get that surge of Self Esteem- you keep reminding yourself why you split up in the 1st place. The relationship wasn’t working out so naturally it seemed to be a sensible idea to break up.
The Third Phase – Sulk….BOO…HOO!
- after you become conscious that life will be different henceforth, you go thru the part of self pity-cry into a pillow, listening to songs that make you think about them, and torture yourself thinking what’s going to occur next.
- Your life may seem over, but trust me, time heals a broken heart and the pain will be gone too.
- This stage is too crappy, but it is crucial. Don’t be reticent discomfort in your heart, you will only feel worst later on.
The Fourth Phase – The Anger
- a particularly imperative stage to cure a damaged heart- this is when you went out the Bitterness.
- You list your buddies provoking features that you once thought was actually lovable and love using the choicest adjectives to explain them.
- at about that point you grow out of self pity look good and feel good as you dress to impress.
- Over time you’ll start missing them less and love yourself more.
- Keep yourself busy with new hobbies, work and chums. There’s no point feeling sorry for yourself when there is a whole world out there waiting for you.
The Fifth Phase – Back in the League
- With time you may notice that there are numerous fine folks aside from your ex, waiting to know you and love you.
- Once you are able to open up again, other folks will wish to get to know you.
- Get out and start having fun again, even if you’re not prepared to start another intense relationship.
The Sixth Phase – Liberty at Last
- Hey it has been days without you having thought about your ex! Even if you do, they don’t hurt anymore.
- It does not even feel bad if you them on the streets. A formal Hi! And you are on the way – smiling, assured and raring to go.
- You are eventually free and prepared to open and love again! Grin.
Try believing in soul mates, simply because one relationship failed to click, does not imply that there’s not another person waiting close by to snatch you up. Mend a damaged heart and life goes on to add new pleasures and a new love!
Recap
If you are heart broken, learn, feel and live again. If someone doesn’t love you any more or you do not love them, there is no point in staying together even if it injures to break up. Over time the agony will heal and you may be ready to let others in and share your glorious self with them.
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June 24, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Since many years the Black man-White girl couple has been more prevalent, today social observers say that dating black women is just as common. As we move ahead into the new millennium, dating and marrying across cultures appear to be skyrocketing at record rates. These days you are likely to encounter mixed-race couples just about anywhere you go : at a company function, at the grocery store, at : a concert, the mall, the theater, even at the church.
The Rising Trend
Individuals have a selection of reasons for dating and mating across color and racial lines. The rising trend of afro-American dating can be due to cultural and racial factors as well as personal preferences of folks. Some Black women are certain that they were/are interested in their White opposite numbers because they had difficulty in meeting Black men at their social and money levels. Others say that their white chums treat them well and share common interests. While some folks simply prefer to date people of another race.
Dating African American
Black dating sites are quite common these days and are especially useful for the interested people to narrow their search. People have different preferences and rather than visiting all of the dating sites you can save time and energy by going direct to your target and achieve success. Black dating sites are available for dating African Yankee services. The numerous differences in behavior, nature and culture between the two races make African American dating popular. Internet dating services support African American dating a great deal.Black dating sites is fun and a place for anybody who is interested with African Yankee dating.
Black Ladies Dating White Men.
- When single black girls are searching for suggestive connections with other white singles thru online dating sites they’ll find an abundance of services.
- Usually these sites will offer detailed white classifieds and photo studio, dating message boards, live chat, and online flirting along with instant messenger services and bulletin boards designed completely for Black Girls Dating White Men.
- Filling up your profile only takes a minute and whether you’re into heavy metal, golden oldies, traveling or bird watching, the various options available make it easier to find that particular person. The search facilities with black dating services are usually very good at both international as well as local levels.
- The black personals’ community provides free trial of the service in several cases. It provides a good platform for making relations from romance to friendship, to fellowship and to marriage.
- You will also find ample opportunities for young, black professionals to hook up with other tasty and successful white males. In today’s world an individual’s profession is significant in shaping our identities, notwithstanding ethnicity and faith playing a huge part in defining our identities. Moreover when you meet somebody with a similar level of professional accomplishment, you never run out of stuff to chat about. It also helps first dates to be a lot more pleasurable when the two of you share a lot in common.
- However Blacks dating other singles can choose to meet and date members from fields other than their own. A barrister may enjoy the company of an architect, or an artist may be fascinated by a healthcare professional.
- web dating across cultural lines could be a fun and non-threatening way to re-enter the dating scene. It can actually help you cut down the qualities you’re searching for in a mate, while also identifying the qualities you’ve got that are most unique and appealing.
- Ultimately in interracial dating it is always advisable to maintain appropriate limits in the dating process to guard yourself from first attachment to someone who may just be passing thru. It’s not the looks, cash or outer show, but the common ground and nature of the commitment that evolves between both of you which should determine the relationship.
Online dating sites for dating black women let you to search for members in a variety of ways. If you are interested in searching for singles by profession, you can. If you would like to meet folk of a particular ethnic group, or different ethnic groups, you can do that too. You can locate shared private interests at the push of a button. It is now straightforward to find your dream date with the modern search applications available on black internet dating services.
Recap
Online dating sites for dating black women allow you search for members in a variety of ways. If you want to search for singles by profession, you can. Reasons for the rising trend of dating and mating across color and racial lines alter from person to individual.
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